Girly and I had this discussion late one night. She's been the veteran in living with communities, adapting to them, adopting them and making them her own. e.g. orissa, bangalore, etc.
Well I felt that as much as she would like to think of herself as part of that community in Bangalore, or as much as I would like to be a farmer in tribal India... we're not!
We might swing in those different directions, every now and again, but it would be an illusion to believe that thats who we are.
At the end of the day when we kick off our shoes, we're most comfortable in an English speaking, upper-middle class home (24RR), with the option of splurging on a movie at PVR or eating out at Rodeos.
It made sense for me to recognise, that even though I may try and build community with my poor, Muslim neighbours, I'm not poor and I'm not Muslim.
So whatever crazy things we may do... we do tend to oscillate back to (or around) the community within which we were raised. Friends like Neema, Punita, Puliyels, etc.
Just some thoughts...
Maybe we can start a discussion on this on this blog... Who are we really? Where are we most comfortable?